QuantumBalance wrote:Regardless of whether you have a key to get girls or not, there are many different types of girls you could "get". And not every key would get the same type of girl. So first you should decide what it is you seek.
Do you seek as much pussy as possible? Then yeah try looking really hot, being in shape, having money, being cool, knowing the hot spots etc.
This also works if you want to get just one person but the best looking or whatever.
Or would you like someone congruent to yourself? Like, are you a footbagger and artist a musician a mechanic a mathematician? Do you want someone int he same field as you?
Your key should be hitting the places where those people congregate and excelling in that field.
Or would you like someone faithful and trustworthy. Then your keys will probably have to be patience and honesty.
Some people believe that no one should seek out a lover, that God will deliver them. Those people are super against the christian dating websites that are out there now, the ones that dont stress hookups, but meeting up.
Some people look but dont rush things.
Some people settle, some people don't.
Define yourself, define what you are looking for. Then decide your approach or key.
Just know what you want and be honest.
ps just had a nice stallberger, me and justin were the lavers and ... nevermind.
That is what I read... but all I heard was "blah blah blah." Sorry, but that was all just, mumbo jumbo.
You don't decide what traits you like in a person, you just like them, or you don't. You can't just choose to like tomatoes if you don't like them.
So, I wouldn't say, "decide" what you want in a boyfriend/girlfriend, but rather, "figure out" what you like in a boyfriend/girlfriend.
If you're looking for a good time, head out of town, and if you're of age, hit up some bars, if not, go to a really popular mall or what not, find someone you like, make small talk, then make conversation, then make plans for the upcoming weekend, and work some magic. If you're good at being able to about anything (being good at holding conversation), doing this shouldn't be a problem, if you are well... then I would stick to relationships.
If you're looking for a relationship, try talking to someone you recently just met, see if any sparks fly. I meet new people all the time, and if I'm ever feeling down about being single, I usually have 2 or 3 new people that are interesting "enough" for me to wanna go out with, with no expectations.
If you're looking for love... well. Everyone has that friend, that they've been friends with for years... and they've kinda thought, "hey.... she's really cool..."but you've always decided you'd rather not mess up teh friendship... Well, fuck that. Love's worth the risk of losing someone as a close friend, IMO. I've not been in search of love ever since my last MAJOR relationship ended a year and a half ago, just been going out with a couple different people. But I have one friend that's pretty close, that I REALLY like.
I consider all three of these options to be, uhh, "controlled" options. You're in controll of when they happen, or when they don't happen.
Uncontrolled options are when you meet a hottie that's not a bitch (This is not a generalization ladies.), that you think it cool/nice/whatever based off of the first impression. As for that, I just use some self confidence, look for something they might be into (based off what they're wearing, or already talking about) and try to relate. I wouldn't consider it "changing who you are" to be like someone else, as I only try to relate to engage in conversation, which then can be led to things you might have in common.
Pure and simply, I use conversation, I have decent looks, but those don't really seal the deal like good conversation does.
I'm out of this one. 
