If you have a girlfriend, is flirting w/ someone else wrong?

[tuomoruutufan]

Scientifically speaking (:lol:), I think it's built-in to the human that we flirt if we aren't 100% sure that we have a really solid relationship.
That's how I'm feeling at the moment, probably because I haven't got the chance to see my gf very often.

I flirt with girls, maybe with a bit intent but not trying to hit on them. Let me explain: I think that the with flirting we try to check all other possible options, just to see if there was any chemistry. With some of them I might have a good chemistry, with some definitely not at all. It's kind of an instinct that the nature has given to us and finding the best partner gives better chances to our genes to survive and be passed to the next generations. That's called evolution I guess.

I don't think that my theory is unappropriate because both, male and female do that and it has happened, is happening and will be happening in the nature all the time.

Theres another positive to this attitude, If you keep options open endless possibilities then you will keep your ladys interest. Never let a relationship get easy. If the girl or guy thinks that the other is 100percent theirs with no questions no doubts and no options then you will start getting lazy. I mean of course you get lazy theres nothing to work for he/she is all yours.

This happened to me, I dated a girl for 4.5 years and she was completely and absolutely in love with me. She didnt need freinds, she didnt need anything in the world but me and a career. I naturally went into a state of absolute lazyness because i could. A part of me wish she had a social life and would meet new people and have a good time without me but she never would she always had an excuse and would just attach herself to me.

Alot of young people are getting into serious relationships at a young age and are just getting lazy because of it. You can learn as much or more about yourself being single and learning how to be happy with just yourself learning how to socialize and meet new people doing that is far more challenging than having a lovey dovey relationship of never ending movies and great sex.

I guess my advice is to keep a balance, stay faithfull but dont miss a social gathering and oportunity to meet some new people, and if your young and you dont have kids be able to get out of the relationship dont feel like your stuck just because its easier to stay in the relationship than get out.

[Muffinman]

I, like, didn't read any responses, but it's totally subjective; it depends on your relationship. Any good relationship is rooted in good communication; depending on how long you have been seeing the person, if this is an issue you should talk about it. Once you've talked about it you will know the answer -- you have to agree to terms. If you both feel comfortable and agree that flirting is fine, then it is; if one of you feels uncomfortable, then you have a problem; and if the one who is flirting or wants to flirt won't listen then you need to decide if that person is right for you (if the flirting bothers you enough).

I'm really close with my girlfriend -- we're best friends and we talk about everything. She knows that flirting with another guy would hurt my feelings, so I trust that she doesn't. A girl I used to work with flirted with co-workers, and maybe even around her boyfriend, so maybe it was okay with them, or maybe it wasn't -- I don't know. It was "harmless", since they are in a serious relationship and just moved away together, but that sort of things bothers me... It's totally something you as a couple have to figure out for yourselves.

A guessing-game relationship isn't healthy.



EDIT: Oh, and as totally similar as James Randall and I are, I disagree that all serious relationships disclude outside flirting, and I mean this in a completely mature sense.

[sweet_hack]

I like to go by that saying: You can look at the menu without ordering. That's how I think of it.

[Guest_2]

Flirting is my sense of humor

I can't just stop making jokes