How many days to wait till you call the girl

CIC flurry · Post by **CIC flurry** » 29 Mar 2005 05:33

When you get some girl's (or guy's) digits, how long do you wait to give 'em a call?

I had never seen the movie swingers which apparently has a three day rule about this, any less you seem desperate, and any longer is mean.

What do you all think?

~T

zachatree · Post by **zachatree** » 29 Mar 2005 05:58

what day did you get the number? best bet is to call on wed. an ask if she is free on friday. bc you dont know them you can just call them an expect them to be free so call a 2 days befor hand ya know. have fun

dont do any thing the good lord wouldnt do

BainbridgeShred · Post by **BainbridgeShred** » 29 Mar 2005 08:20

I've talked about this exact subject before with a few friends.

I said that you shouldn't have some prerequisite for when to call a girl, and that you should know when the right time is based on the chemistry of your first reaction. But as a rule of thumb, don't call her within 5 hours of gettin the number.

junkyardjew · Post by **junkyardjew** » 29 Mar 2005 11:37

don't wait too long man. and if you ask her for a date, and she's busy, don't just say "okay, i'll call you later" MAKE A DATE FOR LATER. I've lost too many girls this way... you've gotta call early and set up a face-to-face meeting for as soon as possible. otherwise things just trail off into a wierd haze and you end up never seeing them again. which sucks.

dragonhack · Post by **dragonhack** » 29 Mar 2005 13:40

in my book 2 days after aquireing a number is a decent time to call, you have to take in to consideration that other guys also have her number, 3 days= too long.

Tsiangkun · Post by **Tsiangkun** » 29 Mar 2005 14:48

I never call, I just get the numbers and say I will.

CIC flurry · Post by **CIC flurry** » 29 Mar 2005 23:39

BainbridgeShred wrote:I've talked about this exact subject before with a few friends.

I said that you shouldn't have some prerequisite for when to call a girl, and that you should know when the right time is based on the chemistry of your first reaction. But as a rule of thumb, don't call her within 5 hours of gettin the number.

Amen, that's exactly how I feel about it.

But then again, not having a timeframe in mind in the past, I've totally waited too long.

Tom

Chris Holden · Post by **Chris Holden** » 30 Mar 2005 05:07

Zachtree is mostly right, but a bit vague on his social grace, I'll elaborate.

If you want to call and ask someone out for Friday (weekend) night, call no later than Wednesday. That's THE rule.

There is nothing wrong with calling the next day for the "Hi, this is <blank> I met you last night at the <blank>." Use your judgement on this. If it was a hard partying rave/club, you may not want to call this next day so that they have time to rest.

ShredOnLawn · Post by **ShredOnLawn** » 30 Mar 2005 11:28

Wait!

Why Lie to her by holding off on your desire to hang out?

Just call the girl when you feel like hanging out so you can make plans now. If you wait another guy will sweep her off her feet with a fast paced romantic gettaway.

Just call the girl when you have free time coming up that you wanna spend with her and tell her."Hey, I've got some free time tomorrow and I want to hang out with you."

Done

vanderwax · Post by **vanderwax** » 30 Mar 2005 11:46

Some people say wait 3 days, some say wait 7 days. I say call her the day after you meet her to a maximum of 7 days later. Some may say not to call the very next day but there really is nothing wrong with initiative, girls, for the most part, like that.

Also, don't call and ask her on a date right away... Obviously TALK to her for awhile and nearing the end of your conversation see if she would like to meet up the next day, if she's not busy of course. If she is busy but is still interested she will suggest a different day.

If you wait longer than a week to call, don't bother calling...

BainbridgeShred · Post by **BainbridgeShred** » 30 Mar 2005 15:49

I would agree with Mr. Wax on the subject of waiting longer than a week. I think as a society we are getting good at spotting ploys because we so so many of them in our daily life. Remember the recation of people when there was the thread about free ipods and stuff? No one wanted to go into it (Besides Tom Mosher, risk taker extrodonaire) because they thought it was a ploy. Just the other day in fact I was walking in the city with some friends and one remarked about a homeless guy's sign that read "Need Money for Beer". My friend basically thought the homeless guy was just thinking that people would think his sign funny, and themselves funny too, if they gave the guy money.

Anyways, back to the point. I think some girls will know if you wait for a very long time that you're just trying to come off and a womanizer, but the truth is, if you don't know when a good time is to call you out of the chemistry of your first reaction, you're probably nothing but. So just call based on chemistry is all I can say.

CIC flurry · Post by **CIC flurry** » 30 Mar 2005 17:51

I want to ask a slightly different question now:

If you haven't called a girl for a week are you not interested, or could you simply have forgotten, or some other reason?

I have a friend who had chemistry with some dude, but he hasn't called her yet.

I myself, got a phone number from this girl saying she wanted to "study." It didn't dawn on me she wanted to go out till a month later when she gave me her number again "in case I lost it." We ended up dating for a year.

Tom
CIC

SlashC · Post by **SlashC** » 30 Mar 2005 17:58

I always just wait for the girl to call me...

BainbridgeShred · Post by **BainbridgeShred** » 30 Mar 2005 18:22

Flurry, I would say if a guy hasn't called a girl within a week, he probably isn't interested. Most guys don't get a lot of numbers, so if they get one it's usually on their mind a lot.

slapdash21 · Post by **slapdash21** » 30 Mar 2005 18:31

Vanderwax wrote:If you wait longer than a week to call, don't bother calling...

words to live by indeed

Ogden 09/04 · Post by **Ogden 09/04** » 31 Mar 2005 20:42

if i get it during the week ill call on thursday,m cuz usually people make plans, or do stuff after school on fridays, so if you call first then you can make plans with her, making her reject her friends.

Blue_turnip · Post by **Blue_turnip** » 06 Apr 2005 03:17

IMO there is absolutely no problem in ringing straight away? Imagine you had just given your number away, what would you prefer, someone who is openly enthusiastic. or someone who pretends to be not *that* interested in an attempt to turn you on.

If I am enthusiastic I will call no later than 1.5 days after getting the phone number.

If im not enthusiastic then i should ask myself why i got the number in the first place.

underooninja · Post by **underooninja** » 06 Apr 2005 13:30

my advice is dont call...women arent worth all the grief and trouble. find a new hobby and ferget about the broad. lmfao

C-Fan · Post by **C-Fan** » 06 Apr 2005 19:47

CIC flurry wrote: I myself, got a phone number from this girl saying she wanted to "study." It didn't dawn on me she wanted to go out till a month later when she gave me her number again "in case I lost it." We ended up dating for a year.

Man, you must be thicker than a phonebook.

CIC flurry · Post by **CIC flurry** » 06 Apr 2005 22:45

C-Fan wrote:Man, you must be thicker than a phonebook.

Sometimes