sam c breakup faq

QuantumBalance · Post by **QuantumBalance** » 28 Jul 2005 22:14

QuantumBalance: hey
QuantumBalance: what did u ask me earlier??
M: um
M: you mean at like 4
M: or an hour ago
QuantumBalance: yeah
QuantumBalance: uh
QuantumBalance: duno
M: i asked you how do you break up with people when you have been with themn for a long time
QuantumBalance: yeah
QuantumBalance: you get it over with so u can start healing
QuantumBalance: thats the answer
QuantumBalance: nike. just do it
M: yeah
QuantumBalance: furthermore
QuantumBalance: u figure out the exact reason
QuantumBalance: that u need to do it
QuantumBalance: because this is all about u
QuantumBalance: u are being depressed by a malexistence right now
QuantumBalance: u must trust ure heart
QuantumBalance: dont deny what u feel
QuantumBalance: then when u tell her
QuantumBalance: tell her u have to do what u have to do.. and u are glad for all the good times u shared
QuantumBalance: and tell her that after you both heal, u have the possibility of even being friends - which she will probably hate that u say that
QuantumBalance: and she will say she doesnt wanna be friends
QuantumBalance: and throw it in your face
QuantumBalance: u just have to tell her that u are sorry u hurt her
QuantumBalance: and that u wish you could make her feel better
QuantumBalance: but that u still have to do what u have to do
QuantumBalance: then just listen to her
QuantumBalance: and then say goodbye.. she may or may not hug u
QuantumBalance: and then u leave
QuantumBalance: and u might cry either that night or next day
QuantumBalance: or even both
QuantumBalance: and then its over
QuantumBalance: and u feel great in like 2 days
QuantumBalance: if u do it exactly like that
QuantumBalance:

QuantumBalance: -sam colclough breakup faq
M:

M: thanks 1!
QuantumBalance: lol
QuantumBalance: welcome
QuantumBalance: hey
QuantumBalance: we men must go through it
QuantumBalance: its sall good
QuantumBalance: just have good intentions in your heart
QuantumBalance: and dont be mean to her
QuantumBalance: be understanding when she gets hurt
QuantumBalance: u have to expect it and nurture it
QuantumBalance: and u have to deal with ure shit before hand
QuantumBalance: by pinpointing exactly how u feel
QuantumBalance: and agreeing with yourself
QuantumBalance: and become resolute
QuantumBalance: do what is best.. trust your morals

ninjo · Post by **ninjo** » 29 Jul 2005 12:55

Thank You

I read this while listening to No Woman No Cry from The String Cheese Incedent

cover from Bob Marley I think.

Thank You Sam,you are a good guy.

Sporatical_Distractions · Post by **Sporatical_Distractions** » 29 Jul 2005 14:36

this has come in extremely handy with a situation i am currently in. you are a straight up life saver. thanks sam

Blackend · Post by **Blackend** » 02 Aug 2005 12:54

You kids and your drugs...just don't break up with someone when they're getting shot at by Afghanis. My ex did that to me and I don't think I'll ever forgive her for it. It would've been better if it was in person than in a selfish "Dear John" letter.

QuantumBalance · Post by **QuantumBalance** » 02 Aug 2005 18:10

Blackend · Post by **Blackend** » 19 Sep 2005 10:17

My last girlfriend broke up with me when I was getting shot at in Afghanistan. Come to find out the bitch was cheating on me long before she sent me the letter. I did one of these

for about a few hours, then one of these

because I had to shit out my sorrows. Then I was like this when we were getting chow at Bagrham AFB

when I saw a hot lieutenant.

WiGeek · Post by **WiGeek** » 19 Sep 2005 10:42

This would have been nice a little while ago... Lost my girl of 4 years for about a month...

But also if you're sure that the other person still wants to be with you, but you're just putting to much pressure on him/her, do this...

IGNORE THEM AND THERE CALLS...

Then they'll realise how much they miss you, and things can either fall back into peices, or they'll never call and you move on like the pimp/pimptress you are...

tuomoruutufan · Post by **tuomoruutufan** » 19 Sep 2005 14:46

HOLY shit i was actually gonna post asking for advice relating to this.

I been having uber troubles with my lady. Theres no love left in me for this girl. And i feel like shit cause shes done nothing wrong and has done nothing but love to all end. I broke it off once it lasted for a week. than 6 months after that i made an attempt to break it off and it failed. now last week i did it again and backed out again. She doesnt deserve to have her heart broken but im completely ready to move on. We really have nothing in common, we have different goals different lifestyles. Shes stuck on this thought that it will change and i think its bullshit i think it will always be like this until i knock her up and i spend the rest of my life watching tv taking care of kids bored out of my mind.

Now i got this thing going where im acting like im single and mingling with new girls and i cant stop myself. Im proud to say i have had the oportunities to cheat and i have never crossed that line and i hope i never do cause thats the last thing this girl deserves but i scare myself cause i think that maybe that night if i had 3 or 4 more beers i would have swaping spit with this chick.

I dont know how to do this and the longer i wait the worst its getting. we been together for almost 5 years, and the last 3 years havnt been anything special or interesting or fun.

your approach is very good but you forget to mention one thing. I have learned this the hard way.

SO SO SO IMPORTANT. If you are having doubts in a relationship dont have sex!!!!! i know its hard guys but you will regret it. sexual acts release endorphin that gives you a utopia feeling that everything is ok gives you that feeling that you love this person. then you say and act like everything is ok for about 3 hours and all your doubts and negativity comes back two fold. Go to the bathroom and rub one off and tell her your not feeling good. If anything this will stem into a whats wrong cause there has to be something wrong for you to turn down sex and thens your chance to do what needs to be done.

Im so freaking scared, depressed, and guilt ridden about all this. I really cant believe it has gotten this bad this far.

WiGeek · Post by **WiGeek** » 19 Sep 2005 15:17

Sometimes I feel the same way as you, but we've been together for only 4 -- only, haha, 4 is a LONG time...

Jdigges · Post by **Jdigges** » 19 Sep 2005 17:49

tuomoruutufan wrote:
I been having uber troubles with my lady. Theres no love left in me for this girl. And i feel like shit cause shes done nothing wrong and has done nothing but love to all end. I broke it off once it lasted for a week. than 6 months after that i made an attempt to break it off and it failed. now last week i did it again and backed out again. She doesnt deserve to have her heart broken but im completely ready to move on. We really have nothing in common, we have different goals different lifestyles. Shes stuck on this thought that it will change and i think its bullshit i think it will always be like this until i knock her up and i spend the rest of my life watching tv taking care of kids bored out of my mind.

Now i got this thing going where im acting like im single and mingling with new girls and i cant stop myself. Im proud to say i have had the oportunities to cheat and i have never crossed that line and i hope i never do cause thats the last thing this girl deserves but i scare myself cause i think that maybe that night if i had 3 or 4 more beers i would have swaping spit with this chick.

What he said but minus the knocking up part. that doesn't have a chance to happen. Also i've only been with my girl for....close to a year now. and i've broken up with her 3 times and found myself drawn back to her.

Also what sam said, thats how it went with the only girl i've ever loved. except i was on the being heart broken side

tuomoruutufan · Post by **tuomoruutufan** » 20 Sep 2005 03:08

I dont have a child, i just feel like she is the kind of girl who wants one so bad that if it happened i would be stuck raising a child with a girl who i have very little fun with. Couples who are like this spend there lives in front of the television

Jdigges · Post by **Jdigges** » 20 Sep 2005 05:49

Yea i wasn't saying you did. i just meant i can relate everything that you said, except for that last scenario

WiGeek · Post by **WiGeek** » 20 Sep 2005 06:34

Get her into footbag or something, might bring some more love into your life.

I don't have AIM dude, that's why I didn't chat with you...

Have MSN or YIM?

tuomoruutufan · Post by **tuomoruutufan** » 20 Sep 2005 08:15

LOL i tried shes to busy and doesnt have the strenght or energy. She really doesnt have the strenght or energy to do anything