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professor wrote:He's trying to apologize and you just keep flaming him, Chris. It seems like you want him to keep insulting you. Also, I'm sure you've said things to him that were hurtful, where's your apology? Because according to you:
shredzilla wrote:You are supposed to do your BEST to make ammends to the people you have hurt PERSONALLY, INDIVIDUALLY.
Chris isn't in AA, Dan is. :roll: Duh. Chris doesn't have a drinking problem he's trying to correct, Dan does.
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Yeah, I was tempted to let Chris bait me in and respond to his flames with a flame, but I caught myself. In a sense these posts are forced, but they are how I feel no matter how unnatural they may or may not sound.

Please explain how I am taking the easy way out? As I said, this is no attempt at the eighth step or making amends. The steps are organized as they are for a reason, and I currently am struggling with the fourth.


It's funny, I kind of expected to come back to Modified and find everyone as changed as I consider myself to be. I now understand why a lot of the more mature members here became really frusterated with this community, and those are the people I truely owe an apology.
you know its bound to be a good thread when dan feary starts it and chris miller and switch kicker have both already posted on the first page.
No, it's bound to be a garbage thread.
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Also, your signature is immature and not funny in the least. I understand that any topic I make on here is going to be looked at differently than most, but you don't need to change your signature for me 8)
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BainbridgeShred wrote:Yeah, I was tempted to let Chris bait me in and respond to his flames with a flame, but I caught myself. In a sense these posts are forced, but they are how I feel no matter how unnatural they may or may not sound.

Please explain how I am taking the easy way out? As I said, this is no attempt at the eighth step or making amends. The steps are organized as they are for a reason, and I currently am struggling with the fourth.


It's funny, I kind of expected to come back to Modified and find everyone as changed as I consider myself to be. I now understand why a lot of the more mature members here became really frusterated with this community, and those are the people I truely owe an apology.
you know its bound to be a good thread when dan feary starts it and chris miller and switch kicker have both already posted on the first page.
No, it's bound to be a garbage thread.
Why would you think or expect that? We're not going through AA.

And don't flatter yourself, I couldn't care less what you think of my signature.

You're a hypocrit, to say the least.
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Moved to Discussion.
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I like Dan Feary. He even came and slept at my parents house with me once.

And Fred, you're so stupid and annoying. Not even like.. smart and annoying, the kind that would make you want to fight back. You're just dumb and you make futile attempts at sparking up drama. I think you have issues that you are unable to deal with.
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Deja Vu!

http://www.modified.in/footbag/viewtopi ... highlight=

Personally Dan. I've come to respect, or at least expect the way you act. You're kind of like Eminem in that you say whatever is on your mind without censoring yourself. Most often I think it lacks any care or tact whatsoever to the people you offend even on some very personal issues that have no relavence to you; like the kid who posted a paper asking for help in the homework section and you ripped him apart as a person.

I have a feeling that your online personality is an over-exaggerated look at the real Dan Fearey. Almost none of us are the same in person as we are online. Online you're a total dick, but there is something to be said about calling it like you see it and being real, rather than ponying up some unnatural complimentary "wow good for you" attitude about every little thing people do.

I hope the rest of your healing goes well and you get to be the person you want in the end. Remember,some of the best people are the most disturbed.
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mosher wrote:bI like Dan Feary. He even came and slept at my parents house with me once.

And Fred, you're so stupid and annoying. Not even like.. smart and annoying, the kind that would make you want to fight back. You're just dumb and you make futile attempts at sparking up drama. I think you have issues that you are unable to deal with.
lol *chuckles*

And I wouldn't say I'm stupid. Obnoxious, (Sp?) ignorant, and annoying, yes, but I'm not stupid. And I don't beleive I sparked anything here. The spark already occured, I just happen to be here with a 5 gallon jug of gasoline. :wink:
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BainbridgeShred wrote:So, when I do arrive at step eight, everyone I think I've harmed will get a personal apology, including you Chris. Until then, I will refrain from step jumping, but you can know this Chris, I feel very sorry for the way I acted on here.
WOW. For once my point was actually properly acknowledged on this forum, by DAN no less 8O If Dan becomes a nice guy that means the world is ending...lol. Anyway, this was the ONLY point I was making, and I know it sounded like flaming to some people, but in fact it was only brutal honesty. I didn't feel like I owed Dan any more than that, and I felt I articulated my point very well.

It'll be interesting to see if I ever get that PM from step 8. Anyone wanna make side bets? I'm offering 2 to 1. Haha I'm joking, but I'd actually like to get that PM one day. Restore some faith in humanity.
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Still, I think you should've held off on even calling this thread 'amends' since you were clearly making the reference to the 8th step in AA. Maybe something like 'Starting over' or 'New Beginning'. Maybe something less cheesy, idk. But I probably wouldn't have even brought up the point if I didn't think you were step jumping, as you yourself have also stated.
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Still, I think you should've held off on even calling this thread 'amends' since you were clearly making the reference to the 8th step in AA. Maybe something like 'Starting over' or 'New Beginning'. Maybe something less cheesy, idk. But I probably wouldn't have even brought up the point if I didn't think you were step jumping, as you yourself have also stated.
I think I should've held off on making the thread at all, and should've just changed my attitude overall, but it helps me to make posts like these when trying to change my attitude so I can hold myself to something. The only reason I regret making this thread is the way you and Switch Kicker responded to it. And I have not stated that I was step jumping, I acknowledged the fact in my first post that I was not trying to accomplish any part of step 8, and only that I wanted to return with a post that expressed my true feelings. If you are not an addict or alchoholic, you have no idea how I feel, or what caused me the act the way I have for the last two years.

Thanks Splint and Mosher.
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Eh, idk man. Your logic still seems a little faulty. You only TRULY need to apologize to the more mature members of the community? The ones that are whole-heartedly agreeing with you? You need to humble yourself. That IMO is your biggest flaw and what keeps you from accomplishing anything in life. It's something that a lot of people struggle with and it can be extremely debilitating.

You offended probably everyone on the forum indirectly, and maybe 20 or so members directly. Those are the facts. I'm just telling you how it is. If this is just a feeble attempt to get modified members to kiss your *ss, which they're obviously so prone to doing, then fine. Don't expect me to though, you were just some *sshole kid from some town I've never heard of. That's not being mean, that's being factual.

I'm still under the assumption that you thrive on this type of stuff anyway. Prove me wrong. Stop arguing with me. That would be a HUMBLE thing to do. I'm pretty sure you're still incapable of doing that though.
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You only TRULY need to apologize to the more mature members of the community? The ones that are whole-heartedly agreeing with you?
You are acting the same way I use to act. You are ruining the board in the same way I use to, and you blame the mods for not cracking down on yourself. People who come here to discuss and learn about footbag maturely are the ones who I actually effected. Grown men who want to engage in petty flame wars, I just wasted time with. I owe them an apology for saying things I didn't mean about their character, but I didn't do a disservice to their attempts at bettering their footbag game or whatnot.
Don't expect me to though, you were just some *sshole kid from some town I've never heard of. That's not being mean, that's being factual.
Calling me an asshole is factual? Calling me an asshole is not being mean? Have any of my last five or six posts had any trace of assholism? I have acted rude in the past, but that does not make me an asshole in character. It makes me a confused, hopeless human being.
I'm still under the assumption that you thrive on this type of stuff anyway. Prove me wrong. Stop arguing with me.
You're right, I do thrive on it. I love catching girls looking at me without even sending a glance in their direction. I love shocking people with absurd comments. I love attention, and I admit it is a defect of mine and something I should probably work on if I want to stay sober. To me, this admission is a sign of my growing humility, and my honesty is too.

However, keep calling me an asshole and I will not stop arguing with you until I get bored/assume my character has been adequetly defended. You said you never back down from a bully, but through whatever thought process you've twisted, you have become the bully, and you don't recognize it. Here's the kicker though; I don't back down from anyone. Especially not a bully because I have been one, and know that out of anybody, they are the biggest pussies of all, and the people you need to fear the least assuming you have a shred of self-confidence.

Oh, and I have nothing to prove to you.
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good luck, dan. I hope, for the sake of you and everyone you have contact with, that you are successful in meeting your new goals.
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bainbridge wrote:However, keep calling me an asshole and I will not stop arguing with you until I get bored/assume my character has been adequetly defended. You said you never back down from a bully, but through whatever thought process you've twisted, you have become the bully, and you don't recognize it. Here's the kicker though; I don't back down from anyone. Especially not a bully because I have been one, and know that out of anybody, they are the biggest pussies of all, and the people you need to fear the least assuming you have a shred of self-confidence.
Ahh, same 'ol bainbridge. An egotistical *sshole to the end! I really will probably never change my opinion of you. You're incapable of changing, as a lot of people are in this world. I really should've taken bets on you continuing to argue with me. You're absolutely incapable of doing otherwise. You have to defend your *ssholishness to the ends of the earth!

See, that's the difference between you and I. You can never admit when you're wrong. This whole AA thing is just your latest kick. You'll drop it in a month and go back to being the same 'ol *sshole. And I'll NEVER get that PM. I'd bet a lot of money on that, but I probably wouldn't be able to find a sucker to take that bet.

It's honestly hilarious to see people run to your side and believe you after you've let them down time and time again. This is just your way of getting attention. The same lame-*ss trick you've been doing your whole life. This little probation thing isn't gonna fix you. When you go to jail in a few years because of your inability to change, that'll probably knock some of it out of you. Til then, same 'ol bainbridge. Haha.
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Shredzilla, honestly anything I do you would interpret in a negative way, and it is you who that will hurt in the end, not me. I called myself a pussy and you say its egotistical. If you want to keep debating this, I will reply where I see fit. I'm not looking for a fight, I'm looking to make amends, to let modified know that I'm struggling to change my life, and consquently my behavior in this forum.
See, that's the difference between you and I. You can never admit when you're wrong.
I think this whole topic has been an admission of my wrong doing. It's clear their is something about my personality that you despise, not just my behavior in general. The point is Chris, I love you dude. Plain and simple, no explanations needed. You seem like a good guy, with character defects just like everyone else. Stop resenting me, I stopped resenting you a long time ago.
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Oh yeah, thats me there in the black jersey. The sharp end of the skate represents my slicing humility, and the look on my face represents my dashing good looks.
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BainbridgeShred wrote:The point is Chris, I love you dude. Plain and simple, no explanations needed.
Ahhhh I'm totally going to take a screenshot of this and put it on a Tshirt. That way, whenever I see you at tournaments I can remind you of it, long after you've forgotten about AA. :twisted:
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chris, do you know about PMs?
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