I was reading Jorden's epic post on page 33 of his blog. My responses are more a reflection of my beliefs than responses that would be of interest to him or his blog readers, so it didn't make sense to post them in his blog. But I thought it was interesting to keep here. NONE of this is meant to start a debate, I'm just recording my thoughts for my own sake. If I somehow offend you, get out of my blog
- About being social: I want 4 good friends (or so). I have 2.5 (Pat, Gabe, Sean), the .5 being Sean because we're neighbor friends rather than real share your heart and soul friends. I'd like a 4th because Pat and Gabe live hours away and I find it important to have a friend in my life on a regular basis. Of course, my wife counts as my best best best friend, but only kind of. There's a difference for me between guy and girl friends. Guys relate on a different level. I had a post someplace on the importance of guys having guy friends. Whatever. Beyond this amount of friends I'm social on special occasions, or mostly for appearances or to network etc. Like if I choose to go to a footbag event this summer, I'll be social, and I'll catch up with people, and that will be fun. But when the day is done, that is that. 3-4 friends take up enough energy, and any other friendships are mostly superficial and based on an activity, rather than based on getting to know someone at a deeper level. And I think that's an OK way to do it - I'm not saying you can't be friendly with people and enjoy their company, it's just that most of these types of relationships don't develop to anything more than that. Outside my couple close friends, I meet up with other people because of a specific shared interest for the most part. That's fun and worth it, but it doesn't need to be more for me. Jorden wrote “Investing loads of time in generic people is kinda like, "why bother".â€
Bob R.